Wednesday, September 14, 2011

We are Expecting!

Dear Family and Friends,

We are expecting! We are expecting to be foster/adoptive parents! We are just as excited about starting this as many couples are after a little “magic stick” gives them a positive sign telling them are going to be parents and giving women the excuse to eat what they want. Instead Deacon and I filled out our first foster adoption pre-application online, then we filled out an application, someone came into our home to talk to us and now we have a clinical interview that is expected to last 5 hours. It looks likes if everything goes well we will be “due”/certified in December and get to look forward to a placement of a child or children (siblings) in the months to follow.

Let me back up in our story. After a few months of dating Deacon, I (Janine) decided to hit Deacon with a test true to my heart. I told him that I was planning on adopting a child within a few years with or without him. Let’s be honest, I was basically telling the man either marry me or move on because I have big plans. Little did I know that due to his complex and beautiful family background the thought of adoption wasn’t new to him and it didn’t scare him. Since we’ve been married, we’ve talked in detail about how we plan on starting a family. God put it on our hearts very heavily that we should pursue foster/adoption before trying to have any biological children.

So the answer is YES, we do plan on attempting to have biological children in the future. We have not attempted this (only practiced) because we feel called to adopt first. We hope to be able to foster/adopt siblings under 7 years old. It is our goal to be able to love on them, wrap our lives and attention around them to give them a stable and loving environment to grow in. They will be our children just as much as any biological child we may have.

Although you have not gotten to see my belly grow, our hearts have been pregnant for a while. We expect that some nights it will be hard to sleep. We have no guarantees that any of this will turn out like we expect. We won’t have an ultrasound to tell us if everything is going well, instead we must have extra faith that this is where God wants us to be.

We hope to be able to include you on this journey. We are thankful for the amazing people in our lives who support and love on us. How lucky these children will be to have all of you in their lives! If you are wondering how you can help right now, the biggest thing we need is prayer for us and our children who are waiting to be put in our family. Your support and understanding of these changes in our lives means the world to us.

However, If you feel as if you want to do more, Deacon and I our saving for a down payment on a home and would accept your help. We would love to be able to welcome our children into a home where they can have their own rooms and a backyard to play in. We have included in this letter a link on how to contribute or watch our down payment fund grow. This letter is not intended to solicit money from our loved ones, but instead to share in our journey. However, God has laid it upon my heart to share our need so that He may be able to provide through others.

Link to follow/contribute to our progress for a down payment

We go to bed every night knowing that our children are out there. They are waiting to be able to feel safe and call someone mom and dad. They are waiting on their forever family. They don’t care what kind of car we drive or if we have to stay in an apartment or get to live in a huge house. We can’t wait to be able to bring our children home. To take way too many picture of them, read to them, listen to them laugh and watch them grow. Our hearts are overdue and we know our labor will not be easy. But every child is worth it! We look forward to growing this Blair Family and sharing our journey with you.

Deacon and Janine


  1. smiling so big right now at the fact that I know the both of you and you have let me and my little ones be apart of the two of your lives. Know that if you guys need anything just drop me a line ..i know a lil about the little ones..haha

    Joe Soltero & The Kidz

  2. Congratulations you two!!! This is beautiful news, and I am so happy we will have someone to go to when we're ready to enter this process (I gave Kwame the same talk when we met, though we're still waiting a few years). Let me know if there's anything we can do to support you from NorCAL!!! hearts and blessings!


  3. I feel nothing but happiness for the 2 of you. You will be great parents, I have no doubt about that. If you ever need help from me or any of my family, drop a line. Deacon knows, but I want you to as well; y'all are a part of my family.

  4. I'm proud of you both and I'm looking forward to my grandchildren. Dad (Thornton)